To My Ladies

If any of my readers are dealing with a breakup: allow yourself to hurt. Do not let anyone belittle you or make you feel guilty for being sad.

Now, don't put your life on hold either, but if you need a moment - take it.

Hearts are fragile and take time to heal.

But here is some better news: women are absolutely powerful.

I promise you, we are strong creatures.

It's easy after a break up to want to give up on love, to get into another relationship, to have mindless hook ups, and to fill that emptiness that our significant other has left behind.

But all that is temporary because sooner or later you will be hit with reality.

There is much controversy over the saying "Love yourself before anyone can love you" I do believe it's possible to find someone that will love you and believe in yourself when you can't see it, but that does not always create the most stable foundation for a relationship.

Trust me, I have learned the hard way.

Loving yourself, being happy with yourself should be of utmost importance. It should be a decision we make every single day. Treating our bodies right, nourishing ourselves, and being aware of our health also contributes a lot to how we feel about ourselves.

A significant other is meant to compliment you NOT complete you.

Many people (including myself) feel as if they can not move on after a breakup. Not just that, we feel as though we can not even live.

Why?

Is it love?

The answer: No.

Most of the time it is because we idolized our significant so much that when they leave us, it is as if we can't live anymore because we got EVERYTHING from them.

Our strength, worth, love, confidence, etc...

Those are things that we should get from The One Above and from ourselves.

You can love someone without idolizing them.

And that is an important key to a relationship and unfortunately it is often not talked about.

Ladies do not be afraid!

You are enough. You are more than enough to create your happiness.

Focus on yourself, your ambitions, your health, and most importantly our loving Father and I promise you, he will not forget you. He will guide you.

I can't sit here and tell you that I am okay, that I completely moved on, that I'm happy.

Truth is, it is a struggle.

But I am finally starting to see how strong I am, how beautiful I am, how loved I am. I feel a lot more confident in myself and I feel happier with myself. My strength comes from God. I have made Him my anchor - my rock. He will never let me down.

I know with time things will be better, I've been attempting to keep myself busy and I try to be surrounded with company. But of course at times I feel like I can't escape those memories.

Whether it's someone asking about him, a song on the radio, a place we used to go and eat, or a tv show that was "our thing," they are all constant reminders and it is just hard.

It's hard to get my mind to be silent. I wish I had those men in black memory erasers at time honestly.

But I remind myself how strong I am & when I don't see it God, my family, and friends are constantly showing me how amazing I am.

Allow yourself time to heal and do so in a healthy manner and it will be worth it.



I'm thinking about starting a series about these topics. Not just because it helps to write about it, but if I can help ANYONE from my experiences, it would make me so happy.


We are beautiful, strong, and powerful warriors. And remember you are never alone.